It has become apparent to me over the past few months that for the foreseeable future I will be living in a house with superhero obsessed boys….sound familiar to anyone else? I should also mention that one of the two boys in my house is over 30.
So, when you can’t beat them, you join them right?
As I regaled yet another tale of a super hero with superhuman strength, power and out of this world abilities to my young master, I began to compare this to my life as a mum, employee, practitioner, sister, daughter, partner etc. (don’t our roles seem endless these days?!).
But I wasn’t comparing my roles in life with a superhero like webslinging Spidey or fearless Batman; I was actually considering their alter egos. Nerdy Peter Parker, arrogant, womaniser Bruce Wayne; although their alto egos may not always be admirable, they have a truth and realness to them that got me thinking….what if we all created our own ‘alter ego’ and drew from it the strength, resilience, patience and inner calm we all need at various times, perhaps we would be stronger, more powerful heroes in our own lives. Let go of the idea that we need to be superhuman, and just focus on the being human.
For example, we can all remember a time when we have felt like the Incredible Hulk. Perhaps your little darling dropped your most coveted bottle of perfume on the bathroom tiles. It’s lying there, smashed into trillions of sharp, not to mention REALLY expensive pieces. We all know the first reaction that comes to mind…. however what if we coerced Hulk into the bathroom cabinet and instead drew our strength from our own alter ego?
So I have created my own alter ego. ‘Super Bear’ has infinite patience, an inner, unshakeable calmness, a laugh or smile always waiting just below the surface and Super Bear never judges other people. Ok, so no-one can be that perfect, but if I carry around my alter ego, perhaps in my pocket or handbag, ready to grab onto at a moment’s notice, will my 3 year old son not look back on his mum as more of a hero than any make-believe characters from his storybooks?
Using our alter egos, we can work towards ensuring everyday encounters with our family, friends, colleagues and strangers are conducted with respect and sensitivity, creating the best role models for the littlest people in our lives and, as happy side effect, perhaps creating more than our average quota of smiles per day….
We all struggle with our own demons, so create your alter ego to counter your own less-desirable or less effective traits and see how you can transform a challenging moment into one of strength, create a response you and your family can be proud of and be the ULTIMATE YOU!