By Helen Tomlinson – Bowen Therapist & Kinesiologist & Linda Hutchinson from Ha Ha Team
Stress is one of the leading causes of ill health and as a parent, stress can be very common. According to Jane Wagner, in her delightful book, The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe, “Reality is the greatest source of stress amongst those in touch with it.” Wagner further asserts that since she put reality on the “back burner,” her life became “jam-packed and fun-filled.” One way of reducing tension in our lives is to envision a lighter view of reality. For instance, I grew up with the notion that life is hard work. Since I put that view of reality on the back burner, my life, too, has become jam-packed and fun-filled.
Stress emanates from positive events as well as negative. One common source of stress, particularly for mothers, is taking someone’s comments too seriously. I recommend the following:
Don’t Be Offended, Even if It Is Intended.
It is not easy, but since I’ve applied the practice of not being offended, I am a lot happier and more serene. People have to work harder to offend me.
Practising one Step from the Avatar Compassion Exercise can also help. I find this one useful, “With attention on the person, repeat to yourself: “Just like me, this person is learning about life.””
If all else fails:
• We often hold stress in our back and shoulders, particularly if we are carrying young children. Regular Bowen Therapy treatments are gentle and very effective in improving your wellbeing.
• Yoga and Dance – really good way to reduce stress and to find some inner peace. Why not give your Mum a 5 class pass (RRP $65) so she can try a few classes?
Regardless, humour, a powerful coping mechanism, relieves stress and adds years to your life. Watch a funny movie and laugh until you cry.
I guarantee you’ll feel so much better.
Happy Mother’s Day!